Why is the debate about homeschooling and socialization?
A common criticism of homeschooling is that homeschool children will not be properly socialized and therefore lack social skills. So what is it about school that is so important for socialization? As children develop psychologically, they go however many points. Levels vary by psychologist you happen to be reading, but there is a basic pattern. Kids are attached to their parents, the children like to play around other children (not them), the children desire to make friends and play with other children (this is a simplified version of course). So concern with homeschooling is that homeschooled children do not go to school when they’re five, they will not have the opportunity to go through the relevant psychological development because they do not have other children the same age to interact with. This of course means critics assuming that homeschoolers lock their children in the room or chain them to the table to make them do countless hours of schooling and never let the “social” with other children. In reality, due to the concern for social development homeshooled their children, many parents overcompensate related to their children in many group activities, even more than their public school peers.
What is the impact of public schools of socialization?
Walk in the public school and listen to the conversations that children have, or check out one of the millions of Facebook pages of today’s students and you will most likely find yourself weeping for the future of humanity. There are epidemics of drug and alcohol abuse, sexual pressure, bullying and a culture that celebrates ignorance of intelligence and creativity. Public schools to promote environment overemphasize the importance of sports performance and reduce academic or creative endevours. Football and basketball players have rallies to celebrate their achievements, whether they have won the season, but exemplary performers in academics, music and art is lucky to receive a letter home to honor their achievements. When a student presents a good effort in class common ridicule is to mark a “try”. Can you think of anything more ignorant to demean someone for. Trying hard is now somehow something to be ashamed of. This is the “Jersey Shore” Generation, mind if you party, get drunk and make yourself sound as stupid as possible, you can be rich and famous, to try and work for something is chumps. It’s socialization that occurs in public schools today.
Socialization is a pro for homeschooling not con.
homeschooling and socialization go hand in hand and give parents more say in the psychological development of the child. What is wrong with choosing child associates with that when they are young? As homeschool family you can join groups, go on playdates and of course the child can play the kids in your neighborhood (on public school kids finish their homework!). Educate your children at home does not mean they will not ever get to see the other children. They will probably get to interact even more. If I remember, most of the time the kids got in trouble in class, it was mind ! In addition, the socialization of public schools is not diverse. In a typical class you have 30 kids all the same age and socioeconomic background. These groups delay development because the young student has no older students to emulate. Homeschooled children interact with a much wider range of people with diverse backgrounds and participate more within the community, you know the “real world”. Public schools claim to be preparing students for the real world yet nurturing environment that is nothing like it, as being a bad sport is more important than being good at math or science. Socialization debate is one that’s long overdue a turn of the head. Public schools should ask “how can socialize students in a way that homeschooled children are?”